Yeah, I thought that would get you reading further! Rob and I are doing pre-marriage counseling for a young couple starting tonight and I was wondering if you (again, whoever YOU are?) could give me your top piece of marital advice? You could maybe even throw in a funny story of what NOT to do in a marriage? I only have one marriage worth of experience to share, so I think it would be fun to maybe pass along other tid-bits of marital advice that you have found helpful.
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My friend Sue who was married for 36 years before here husband passed away from Cancer says...."Don't let the sun go down on your anger!" My pastor always says "Kiss your wife before you go to bed. If there is a problem it always shows in the kiss!"
Sue also says..."If you are angry with them, stop and ask yourself, how would my life be without this person. This often reminds you of their good qualities and changes your perspective."
As for me having never been married you are much farther along than I. I miss you my friend! I love being able to see what is going on in your life and seeing your children. Soon I will come and see you and give you a big hug and of course help organize as I am so notorious for :-)
Love ya
SaraJane
Session is over - how'd it go? Will have to think on the advice idea, should have some since we're approaching 30 years!
Find time to be together (no work, no phone, no kids. And get out of the house. McDonald's would do. Even when you both work, have kids and a house. The work, kids and house will always be there. It's not as important as remembering how much you love each other. Remember the romance - give a gift for no reason, an extra hug or kiss. Appreciate and tell each other every day. The dishes are done - thank you for helping. You did good helping with the kids- thank you. Personal things - I really like that shirt, blouse etc. You get the idea.
Remember why you fell in love.This is your partner for the rest of your - someone you can't live without. Not someone to tolerate and try to change.
You are the princess and prince. Thanks can't get any better than that.
Put Christ first in your life. HE seems to always have the best answers. There are no perfect people and you will have some problems along the way. The answer should be we can work this out TOGETHER! Don't compare your life to others. Cherish the time you have together.
IF you are apart, long to be together again. When you are blessed with childern, they will only be with you a short time (even though it seems like forever). Keep your relationship thriving during this time. Love is a Commitment not an emotion.
The others are all good, especially that Love is a Comittment!
What I have is a marriage counseling piece of advice - Don't ask your inlaws about sex...
During our mariage counseling I thought the sex part was the best part (I am a guy after all). During the sex part Frances and I thought we would embarass her parents and asked them to read and discuss the section on sex with us. It backfired. Not only did it NOT embarass them, they were very forthright about what they thought was accurate as well as inaccurate in our counseling book. The even went on in WAY TO MUCH DETAIL to describe what they thought we needed to know.
Moral of the story - read the book, talk with your counselors but you ARE NOT going to embarass the old foggies like you might think!
Always put your husband before you, and he will do the same. Show him how much you support him, this is really really important for a man. Oh, and what they taught in sex ed is really true....it does only take once
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